Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Turning off the Guilt Trip!

What is it in the human psyche that relishes the negative and brushes off the positive? Of the nine basic human emotions, only the last three are considered positive, according to Russ Harris, author of The Happiness Trap.


1. Fear
2. Anger
3. Shock
4. Disgust
5. Sadness
6. Guilt
7. Love
8. Joy
9. Curiosity

We are biologically pre-disposed to protect our lives from potential danger because negative emotions focus our attention and make us alert to potential predators waiting to destroy us. The problem is, throughout evolution and the slow development of the frontal part of our brains where thinking and logic take place, we failed to recognize that we had become our own worst enemies.

The elephant will always be able to outweigh, out-maneuver and over power its rider, the mahout. Emotions are king and our feeble brains follow where our feelings lead us.

Start with the most useless, destructive emotion of all, guilt. What possible advantage does it bring us? We wallow in our own self-pity and become our own victims, absorbing our energies, and leaving a piddling puddle of jelly left to conquer the world. It’s listed at the bottom of the top six negative emotions because it is most likely to be the repository of the five above.

Vow to yourself that any feelings of guilt you may have will be turned into something constructive. Turn off the Guilt Trip and get out of the Guilt Trap!

Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Personal Branding: Creating your Noble Cause

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” Albert Einstein.

Fortunately, or unfortunately, I am master of my fate. Beneath the surface of a successful person is almost always this conviction. They recognize the power they have to create their lives and they take responsibility for ensuring that their values are at the core of every decision they make. Winners are rarely accidental. They believe the glass is at least half full and figure out a way to make it overflow. If you believe in yourself and the power of your future, others will also believe in you.

It’s easy to become distracted by the responsibility you have for the goals of your organization and, in the process, lose touch with your own mission and goals. The result can be a rudderless exercise of floundering between, “Do what I say, not what I do.” No leadership strategy has ever been as effective as role modeling so creating a motivated, innovative, self-directed workforce begins with understanding and motivating yourself.

Libraries are full of “How to” books on leadership, on how to impact the performance of other people and gain recognition through their achievements. Strategies, techniques, manipulation under the guise of the common good, are wrapped up in tidy packages of “Five….or seven…or 10 Steps” anyone can learn and implement almost immediately. You are assured that following the specific rules will produce more, better, quicker, cheaper. It is comforting but rarely realistic. Leadership is about people and people just don’t fit into prescribed rules of behavior.

A brand image is an implied promise. Evaluate your brand image, identify the product and service guarantees people anticipate from their relationship with you. Is your image consistent, predictable, does it reflect who you really are and how you perform when you are at your very best? A successful leader has a clear brand image that epitomizes a personal mission and vision of a positive world.

Tribal Leadership is a terrific book by Dave Logan, John King, and Halee Fischer-Wright. The five stages of development they identify for great organizations are equally useful for individuals seeking to define and connect with their own personal brands. They identify Level 5, the highest level of achievement as when everyone in the organization is focused on something much greater than themselves, their team, or even the organization’s success. It is founded on a Noble Cause based on core values, and a belief that “life is great.” Your Nobel Cause will encourage you to stretch beyond your perceived limits and capture the imagination of people around you.

Where does your brand fit with the universe? What is your unique place? What do you bring to the table that no one else can claim? What are the values that guide you? What is your Noble Cause?

“It is well to remember that the entire universe, with one trifling exception, is composed of others.”
John Andrew Holmes